Today I read an interesting article on professional life over taking the personal time these days. I had this feeling “oh how true!!!” until I finished reading that piece of writing. So here is the rambling created by that disturbing thought.
Yes we all had ambitions to do something super good, to achieve sky heights, to take up a dream job and have an exciting career. But I had never thought about the fine balance that has to be held, when you are a mother who also takes up a profession. When I was just beginning my career I had some super women friends, who used to be the mother of 1 or 2 kids and super good programmers/Leads/Managers. I used to think that theirs is a herculean task but never contemplated more as to what I will do, or what I should do when I become a Mom. When I had the time to work late nights, do some pair programming/ pair debugging at late nights, these holy mommies used to rush home on time. They never wasted time getting into unproductive meetings or discussions that are mere cribbing sessions. I used to admire their ability to remain focused all the time despite the daily hustle-bustle. They’d also popped up late nights from home to fix critical issues. Amazing beings!!
Today when I am in the same situtation, I draw my energy from them. I plan the next whole week, starting from buying groceries to setting up the wardrobe, whewww! I call it a roller coaster.
Amidst all this, Parenting is the new challenge. Looking at the social media these days, I realize that it is so important to devote time to the little ones at home for they are the future in the making. It is no big achievement that I have come this far. The actual challenge begins now. I need to equip my little one with skills for life. Right from teaching her to be polite and courteous, the good and the bad, patience, persistence and the other long list of items that I am yet to discover. The most important need of the Kids is quality time from the parents. This is an important consideration for every mom. Something has to be done, to give the young ones, what needs to be given. I am no proponent of theories that mothers should stay home, look after the family, perform her duties to the family, blah blah.. Well yes, this is my precious life and i am not going to waste it, trying to adhere to the stereotypes that were created generations ago. I shall do what makes me feel complete. So, what would make me feel complete? In a nut shell, I have to spend a quality time with my little one, tend to her needs, equip her with the necessary skills so that she will be an independent and compassionate human being, simultaneously feeding my soul it’s chicken soup by practicing my profession in the most empirical way plausible.